PHOXHOLE.

Question: is there ANY guy (specifically gay) that believes in sex only in a monogamous reltionship?!?! sheesh

• WARREN: lol. not me.
• ME: hah. why not? am i old fashioned or something?
• FREDERICK: I wouldn't say "only" but I believe that a decidedly monogamous relationship should actually BE monogamous.
• WARREN: the universe is endless. singularity is unrealistic. and in monogamous relationships, rules and boundaries and limitations are factored in.
• and in monogamous relationships there only seems to be two rules; jealousy and trust issues.
• since when does love have any of those things? humans are social creatures, and attraction is attraction is attraction. why limit yourself?
• besides, all of the relationships that i know of that have lasted the longest in gay relationships---are open relationships.
• but---hey, do what you want, because i certainly do. aint no shame.
• ME: i agree with that very much so. i dont believe in true love. i think as we learn and grow, our perceptions change and we find a mate to match and join us on that part of our lifes journey maybe even more than one if it comes up, someone to soak in those experinces. its why i dont believe in marriage.
• then we change again and find someone, or someones, better suited for how we see the world.
• im just saying that for me sex is beautiful, raw, passionate and i feel we should only share it with someone we have feelings for, someone who will appreciate it and reciprocate
• i shouldnt say monogamous, just a relationship. no one night stands. thats really what im getting it. youre focused on the "monogamous" part, but is there any gay guy who thinks one night stands and being a whore is wrong? i think im actually fit for an open relationship, theres always a couple men who i can fall for all for different reasons, not just sex.
• ME: changing my question: is there any guy who believes that sex should only be in a relationship (monogamy or polygamy), not extranneous and with random unappreciative partners/strangers. thats what im saying.
• FREDERICK: Well I don't think anyone who hasn't decided to be monogamous should feel pressure to participate in monogamy.
• WARREN: there is a book called "The Ethical Slut". check it out.
• and to respond to what you said. no. i dont see anything wrong with being as causal/slutty as you want. the only way you can be wrong is if you are consciously doing something un-ethical or not taking care of your body. then its your own baby cryin. its about responsibility.
• like-wise, have fun!
• ME: alright thanks ill check it out!
• ok well thank you warren (and frederick) for this constructive chat, changed my views a little. i guess not liking to sleep around was a personal choice and i need to allow other people to do as they please. im such a control freak, need to change that.
• i guess im so fearful of things like stds and possibly falling for that person id sleep with that i just want to not deal with it. also maybe cause i live in such a small town and being gay, 'rolls in the hay' just dont present themselves, so maybe thats why i dont do it. i wonder if i would take ther bait if i lived in a bigger area. well like everyone in this world i have a lot to learn about everything. what strange is in everything else im not a prude, i love to push the boundries of morality, make art the people might confuse with pornography. maybe im just a romantic at heart. or maybe i havent had enough relationship experience yet. thats probably it.
• thankyouthankyouthankyou for opening my eyes a bit.